The first separations from your baby are delicate stages, sometimes fraught with emotion. Whether it’s starting nursery, going to a childminder or occasional childcare, entrusting your child to others for the first time is never insignificant. It’s an important transition for the baby… but also for the parent.

Here are a few tips to help you navigate this transition with greater confidence and peace of mind.

Trust the professionals who look after your child

Above all, it is essential that you can trust the people you entrust your baby to. Don’t hesitate to ask questions about their practices, their approach, how they welcome children, how they deal with crying, meals, naps… Understanding what happens “on the other side” often helps to alleviate apprehensions.

If something seems unclear or bothers you, don’t be afraid to speak up. Trust is a cornerstone of this transition. And if, despite everything, you still don’t feel comfortable with your chosen childcare option, listen to your instincts. Sometimes it’s better to look for another solution, even if it requires some adjustments.

Promote reassuring continuity between home and childcare

During the familiarisation phase, take the time, if possible, to do things gradually. This period is precious for your baby: it allows them to observe at their own pace and get used to their new environment, the adults and the other children.

However, there is no need to change your habits at home to “prepare” for the separation. If your baby falls asleep in your arms, while breastfeeding or in a baby carrier, stick with what works for you. These rituals are part of their emotional balance. They will be able to tell the difference between routines at home and those at the childcare centre. And finding their bearings at home after a day apart will be deeply reassuring for them.

Name emotions: yours and your baby’s

We often hear that if the parent is stressed, it will make the separation more difficult for the child. And sometimes this is true. But feeling anxious or sad is perfectly normal. What matters is to accept these emotions without judging yourself.

Take the time to verbalise how you feel to your baby, using simple words: “You’re going to spend time with other children while I’m at work. I’m a little emotional today, it’s new for both of us, but I know it’s going to be fine.” This helps them understand what’s going on, feel recognised, and develop their own emotional intelligence.

Prepare your baby with simple words and concrete time references

The concept of time is still vague for a toddler. Rather than saying “I’ll be back tonight”, use references related to their day: “I’ll come and pick you up after your nap” or “after your snack”.

Before leaving, make sure your baby sees you leave. Even if they cry, this clear and visible moment of separation helps them understand that you are leaving and, above all, trust that you will return. Leaving “quietly” can sometimes make toddlers feel insecure.

And if it makes you feel better, don’t hesitate to check in during the day. This will help you stay connected to what they are experiencing.

Support each other, share, express yourselves

The first separations are not easy for anyone. Talk about it with the other parent, a loved one or other parents. Sharing your feelings can help you feel less guilty and less alone, and open up a space for support. If you find it difficult to talk about it, writing can also be a valuable resource.

In summary

This moment of separation is a growth stage for your baby… and for you too. It takes time, adjustment, dialogue and a lot of gentleness. So, above all, be kind to yourself. You are doing your best, and that is already a lot.

You are not alone.